Annapoorni Balan, Principal, IUEF SECRETARY GENERAL for Pooma Educational Trust
Emotional intelligence is the knack of monitoring your and other people’s emotions, differentiating between feelings, labeling feelings, and harnessing this invaluable emotion-based information for directing your actions, thoughts, and decisions. This describes emotional intelligence in more broader or general terms, though there is plenty of debate among the socio-psycho scientific community,
The Benefits of Emotional Intelligence
Self-awareness. This is the ability to label, recognize, and understand your own emotions. ...Emotional regulation. Emotional regulation has to do with our ability to control strong emotions by not acting on raw feelings in an impulsive or destructive manner. ...Empathy. ...Social skills.
Emotional intelligence is primarily based on 25 distinct emotional intelligence characteristics, which feature everything from a service mindset to team spirit to motivation to self awareness. Self-awareness is the knack of being able to identify emotions and feelings as we feel them. It is tuning in to our inner self for evaluating exactly how we are feeling. Self-awareness consists of not just confidence in your abilities, but also recognizing the exact emotions you are experiencing, and it’s emotional after effects.For instance, let us say you have a high emotional quotient Now each time you come across a co-worker you feel pangs of jealousy almost involuntarily because you think he/ she is better at their work than you are, and leads a more fulfilling life. This is why though you don’t have any malice towards him/ her, you dislike or avoid him/ her. As an emotionally intelligent person, you will be aware of and even acknowledge the jealousy you feel for the co- worker. You’ll know the exact emotions you experience each time you come across him /her, and the effects of these emotions (dislike for them).Compare this with a person who isn’t very high on self-awareness and emotional intelligence. They may not even know why they dislike a particular person or may not be ready to accept that they are in fact jealous of the person. Self-awareness is a huge component of emotional intelligence because it allows you to recognize what you are feeling. You can only work on your emotions or manage them when you identifying what you are feeling, and its subsequent impact.
Emotional intelligence is primarily based on 25 distinct emotional intelligence characteristics, which feature everything from a service mindset to team spirit to motivation to self awareness. Self-awareness is the knack of being able to identify emotions and feelings as we feel them. It is tuning in to our inner self for evaluating exactly how we are feeling. Self-awareness consists of not just confidence in your abilities, but also recognizing the exact emotions you are experiencing, and it’s emotional after effects.For instance, let us say you have a high emotional quotient Now each time you come across a co-worker you feel pangs of jealousy almost involuntarily because you think he/ she is better at their work than you are, and leads a more fulfilling life. This is why though you don’t have any malice towards him/ her, you dislike or avoid him/ her. As an emotionally intelligent person, you will be aware of and even acknowledge the jealousy you feel for the co- worker. You’ll know the exact emotions you experience each time you come across him /her, and the effects of these emotions (dislike for them).Compare this with a person who isn’t very high on self-awareness and emotional intelligence. They may not even know why they dislike a particular person or may not be ready to accept that they are in fact jealous of the person. Self-awareness is a huge component of emotional intelligence because it allows you to recognize what you are feeling. You can only work on your emotions or manage them when you identifying what you are feeling, and its subsequent impact.
Real power comes from being able to manage our and other people’s emotions. The negative, self-limiting, and destructive baggage we burden ourselves with eats up our energy, thus draining us physically and psychologically. Just imagine a cupboard filled with unwanted, unnecessary stuff. The unwanted stuff doesn’t have any value for you. Yet, it’s crammed inside a space that can be used to store more valuable and useful stuff. No because you have a ton of unwanted stuff, you can’t accommodate what you really want inside it. This is exactly how our emotions operate. When we are full of negative, unwanted, and psychologically damaging emotions, it’s hard to focus on positive pursuits. Emotional intelligence is the magic wand that gives you the power to identify your emotions and manage them while recognizing and managing other people’s emotions to enjoy a rewarding and fulfilling relationship with yourself and others. Unless we discard the negative and damaging emotions, you can’t make way for positive thoughts, emotions, and pursuits that enrich our life. Unless we master the ability to manage our thoughts and emotions, there’s no shedding the unwanted baggage of negative feelings and unpleasant emotions.
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